Walking through the market, filling up my cart with fresh fruits and vegetables, whole grains, light , reduced fat or sugar free products, just screams to everyone
“HEY THIS FAT CHICK IS ON A DIET!!”, walking down the “health food aisle" & checking nutrion labels is even worst, It's feels just like me walking into Victoria Secrets and the attendant asking if I am lost, as she points my way to the plus size stores.
I feel like people “expect” to see a cart filled with donuts, chips, ice cream, just one example today as we walked to the bakery section [for bread] my daughters of course wanted cookies, they were on special “fresh baked, buy one bag, get one free” the nice lady at the bakery ask if my daughters would like to have one, as she handed them the cookies with colorful m & m’s, she goes here mom; I politely said no thank you, and she said "oh come on they have no calories",as she kinda looked me up and down.
Now I didn’t take it as though she was criticizing me, she was rather nice and bubbly, but still stung just a bit, I took the cookie, smiled said thank you, and walked away. [I allowed my daughters to split it; I am not a fan of m&m cookies..luckly.]
I already feel judged by a lot of people that see me; people make assumptions about fat people all the time, this I know firsthand because at one point in my life I was one of “those” people.
Truth Is
I was thin and active, very health conscious, and I recall secretly judging those who were fat, I expected to see candy in their carts, thinking, and no one they are fat, They MUST be lazy, or just not care about there health.
I know some karma is a bitch because now here I am and in all honesty becoming overweight has humbled me, and for that I am grateful, I needed to see there was more to people the their looks then appearances, to not judge by outward appearance, but then the world would be a hugely different place if we all experienced life from another’s perspective. Until then i'll try to just hold my head up high, knowing that I am doing what I need to do for my health, and from time to time, just accept a cookie or too to spare myself some dignity.
“To become truly great, one has to stand with people, not above them.”
“HEY THIS FAT CHICK IS ON A DIET!!”, walking down the “health food aisle" & checking nutrion labels is even worst, It's feels just like me walking into Victoria Secrets and the attendant asking if I am lost, as she points my way to the plus size stores.
I feel like people “expect” to see a cart filled with donuts, chips, ice cream, just one example today as we walked to the bakery section [for bread] my daughters of course wanted cookies, they were on special “fresh baked, buy one bag, get one free” the nice lady at the bakery ask if my daughters would like to have one, as she handed them the cookies with colorful m & m’s, she goes here mom; I politely said no thank you, and she said "oh come on they have no calories",as she kinda looked me up and down.
Now I didn’t take it as though she was criticizing me, she was rather nice and bubbly, but still stung just a bit, I took the cookie, smiled said thank you, and walked away. [I allowed my daughters to split it; I am not a fan of m&m cookies..luckly.]
I already feel judged by a lot of people that see me; people make assumptions about fat people all the time, this I know firsthand because at one point in my life I was one of “those” people.
Truth Is
I was thin and active, very health conscious, and I recall secretly judging those who were fat, I expected to see candy in their carts, thinking, and no one they are fat, They MUST be lazy, or just not care about there health.
I know some karma is a bitch because now here I am and in all honesty becoming overweight has humbled me, and for that I am grateful, I needed to see there was more to people the their looks then appearances, to not judge by outward appearance, but then the world would be a hugely different place if we all experienced life from another’s perspective. Until then i'll try to just hold my head up high, knowing that I am doing what I need to do for my health, and from time to time, just accept a cookie or too to spare myself some dignity.
“To become truly great, one has to stand with people, not above them.”
Sounds like you're on the right path about not judging others. I know its hard. Truth is (this is what I have discovered), that when you love yourself, its easier to think more kindly of others and feel they are not judging you. Know what I did to overcome this? I take time every evening for myself now, pedicure, nice bath with music and candles, I bought beautiful french products at a bath store just for me and set aside my own area for beauty items. Sounds simple, but taking time to be selfish for you is important in the weight loss game. If you don't treat yourself special, why would anyone else? You must treat yourself well and your whole attitude will change. Let me know if you try this, I did and its made all the difference in my life now. Linda
ReplyDeleteYou know what? Thin people, not all of them i'm talking about the ones who always judge, are going to judge you no matter what. If your cart has candy in it, they 'll think "she really shouldn't be eating these" and if the cart has healthy food they 'll go "she's trying to lose weight huh? pff!". My point is : an a**hole is always an a**hole, so try not to pay too much attention. Focus on your goal honey, and always appreciate what you are and what you have.
ReplyDeleteThose assumptions can kill a person...
ReplyDeleteWhen I see someone grossly overweight with a shopping cart full of fresh fruit and veggies, I think "Good for them!"
ReplyDeleteBut truthfully, I don't see that at the grocery store. I see jumbo bags of chips, I see frozen chicken strips, I see Ben & Jerry's and Oreos.
Great post! I always feel judged. :(
ReplyDeleteGreat post!! I always feel judged.
ReplyDeletei was perusing the net and so gld I found you... will be checking in from time to time.. and I loved that post... I do know exactly what you mean..
ReplyDeleteYour post today is great. I think at one point or another we all judge people. It's just coming to that realization is what helps us. Going through this journey, I find myself watching other's carts and praising those that are filling up with healthy foods, and wishing I could help those that are filling up with junk!!
ReplyDeleteJust be proud of yourself and be pridefull when you load up that cart with fruits, veggies and nutritionally healthy foods!!
Keep it up, you're getting there and that's all that matters!
Walk in confidence down those aisles! You should be proud of all your accomplishments.
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